I Will Always Prefer You To Tell Me The Truth, Even If It Hurts

The truth is conviction and inner balance. Especially in relationships. There are those who do not practice it even for themselves. But it is necessary that we offer it on a day-to-day basis, always with respect, to promote coexistence.

There are those who want half truths. There are those who prefer lies that comfort. However, living in falsehood or half lies brings, little by little, a heartfelt unhappiness.

“I want the truth, even if it hurts.” We are sure that you have also said it out loud on occasion and, although fear has seized you inside, you may have thought that the truth always helps to turn the page and move forward.

The truth to close circles, personal stages

The truth is necessary to close personal stages. Let’s see this through a common example: a person is in a relationship, he senses that the affection is no longer the same, that the gestures are no longer authentic. However, out of fear of loneliness and fear of facing reality, he pretends nothing is wrong.

Intuiting, seeing and feeling something negative and not saying it out loud is a mistake. Not just because it “stagnates,” but because it prolongs suffering or discomfort.

You always have to ask for the truth, and more on emotional issues. It is the only way to maintain personal integrity and to deal with the situation.

• Preferring false truths or comforting words only lengthens a situation that, sooner or later, will get worse. And this can be very negative for emotional health.
• The truth helps to face the evidence of something that must be assumed.
• The truth allows us to gain integrity. And, although it may hurt at times, it always teaches something that allows us to deploy our own strategies to continue living with courage and integrity.
• People need the truth in our relationships (in general, not just as a couple) to know if it is worth keeping a bond or, better, letting go and healing the wounds to move forward.

Why are there people who don’t tell the truth?

Psychologists comment that when people resort to lies, it is basically out of fear:

• Fear of revealing any information that may make others uncomfortable.
• Fear of losing what you have at this time.
• Fear of possible consequences.
• Worry that others discover that we are not as they expected.

All of these are situations that, maintained over time, can greatly erode self-concept. Therefore, it is necessary to solve them healthily.

The truth is a double edged sword

It is true that it is necessary to always tell the truth; however, when there is no respect, it can be a double-edged sword. Therefore, the key is to communicate it clearly, but without ever falling into disrespect.

There are people who pride themselves on being very sincere, direct, and never “shutting up anything.” This often makes the truth they communicate a double-edged sword.

The key to transmitting the truth, without punishing the other, is to maintain an attitude of respect and balance. To do this, the following must be taken into account:

• It is necessary to understand the truth as an instrument of coexistence that allows us to grow, accept reality and promote respect.
• The truth cannot be used as a form of aggression. No one can go around the world revealing who they hate, who smells bad, who they can’t stand, or who they find ridiculous.
• Also, we must bear in mind that in certain areas, each of us has our own truth. “I think that political party X is the best” (when in reality, it may be for you, but not for others).

Sometimes the truth has many nuances because, far from being a universal entity, it is something very particular. And, therefore, we must use it with respect, tact, balance and, above all, maintaining integrity.

Never say the opposite of what you think

This is another essential element: to maintain good self-esteem never make the mistake of saying the opposite of what you think to please others. It is a way of falling into unhappiness.

We are clear that the truth should NEVER be used as an instrument of aggression and that, sometimes, it is convenient to “soften” it a bit, choosing the right words.

Respect is always essential

Instead of saying to a coworker: “I can stand you less and less, you are someone selfish who does not stop talking all day and does not let anyone work” you can say: “Please, let’s focus more on the task and less on personal issues; Lately I have a hard time working and I wish a little silence to move forward.

As you can see, the idea remains the same. But the message is communicated with respect, without punishing with words or gestures and emphasizing a need: to work in harmony.

Telling the truth helps turn the page

So if you don’t like that food your in-laws make you every weekend, say it with respect or you’ll end up with indigestion. On the other hand, if you don’t like how your boss treats you, react. Sooner or later he may treat you worse when he sees that your resistance threshold is too high. And if you have a difference with a coworker, come over and talk calmly. Do not let the discomfort pass because, this way, they will only feel worse.

And on a more personal level, remember: if you don’t love your partner, tell him or her and don’t prolong a situation that sooner or later will hurt you both more. The truth, expressed with respect, is necessary for everyone.